Great advice from bestselling author Dale Carnegie (1888-1955)
At some point during the writing of my new book, The Alpha Female’s Guide to Men & Marriage, I read Dale Carnegie’s How to Win Friends & Influence People. I can’t remember how I came to pick it up, but I found that so much of it was applicable to what I was writing about being a better wife. So I thought I’d share with you the list on the first page of Carnegie’s book. You’ll see why it’s both relevant and inspiring, and you can start to put this advice into action right away!
[Dale Carnegie was born into poverty on a farm in MO and was the author of several books. How to Win Friends became a bona fide phenomenon and is still popular today. One of the core ideas in Carnegie’s books is that it’s possible to change other people’s behavior by changing one’s behavior toward them.]
1. Don’t criticize, condemn or complain.
2. Give honest and sincere appreciation.
3. Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely.
5. Be a good listener.
6. The only way to get the best of the argument is to avoid it.
7. Never say, “You’re wrong.”
8. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing other person.
9. Ask questions instead of giving orders.
10. Let the other person save face.
11. Praise the slightest improvement.
12. The expression one wears on one’s face is far more important than the clothes one wears on one’s back.