Where the Good Men Have Gone and How to Get Them Back
Once upon a time, women wanted to get married and have kids. They wanted other things too, but marriage and motherhood was first on the list. As a result of this natural desire, women needed to find a “marriageable” man, a.k.a. a good man who could also make a comfortable living. This arrangement allowed women to raise their children without the burden of earning an income. Men understood this arrangement, and, seeing as they aren’t the ones who bear children, it made sense. In fact, they took pride in being able to provide for their families.
Then feminists came along to implode this entire arrangement.
They told women that being breadwinners is far more satisfying than being wives and mothers. It is simply safer, both emotionally and economically, to not rely on a man in any way. Doing so puts women in an vulnerable position and erodes their identities—because men, left unchecked, are natural-born oppressors.
The message sunk in; and decades later, marriage and motherhood is no longer women’s number-one goal. They now focus solely on themselves and their careers. As for sex, women are encouraged to separate it from emotion and treat their bodies like a virtual playground. On the chance a woman does get attached, she can simply ‘shack up,’ as it used to be called, and see how things go.
Eventually, of course, being single and unmarried gets old and women decide that getting married and having kids doesn’t sound so bad after all. In fact, their desire for marriage and motherhood becomes more heightened and more urgent than ever.
Problem is, now they can’t find a marriageable man. The men who were marriage-oriented honed in on and found women who hadn’t been seduced by feminist dogma, while the men who were blasé about marriage—which many would argue is most men—lost the incentive to marry.
Well of course they did! Women made it clear they don’t need men for anything. They don’t need his protection or his money, and they can even raise babies on their own with no social stigma. Put another way: respect for a man’s contribution to marriage is dead.
And so, men stopped working hard on behalf of women and children. They stopped thinking about women as potential wives. If a man wants sex, there are plenty of willing and available women from which to choose.
To put it another way: the feminist plan failed. It was supposed to liberate women, but it didn’t. Instead it made love more complicated—and more scarce. It’s a ‘friggin mess.
Frustrated with the lack of marriageable men, women now insist the whole thing is men’s fault. If men weren’t such losers—in other words, if they were gainfully employed and not living in their parents’ basements—women wouldn’t have to postpone marriage and motherhood or forgo it altogether.
But it wasn’t men who changed the rules—it was women! Or more specifically, it was feminists who misled an entire generation of women.
Can this mess be turned around? Absolutely. But women must lead the way since they are the sex that steered us off course. All men did was respond accordingly. Men, as a rule, will accommodate women. They’ll act as poorly or as wisely as women permit. That is the nature of man.
It’s the women who respect men, who prioritize marriage and motherhood, and who don’t adhere to a bogus notion of equality that find good men. When enough of these women come out of the woodwork, so too will enough good men.