How to Choose a Husband

America is single.

It’s divorced, under committed, and hopelessly out of touch with monogamy. Why? Because since the day they were born, the modern generation has been taught to postpone marriage indefinitely or ignore it altogether, as though marriage has no bearing on their happiness. As though it were a nice idea, or nice accompaniment, to an otherwise satisfying life.

But if flying solo is so great, why are people Match.com-ing on their lunch breaks and eHarmony-ing on the subway ride home? Why are women standing in the grocery aisles hoping to bring home a husband rather than a head of lettuce?

Sure, being single is fun—for a while. But most people don’t want to stay single forever. Men and women are irrevocably drawn to one another. Since the beginning of time, this attraction has been the driving force of our survival as a species—and until recent decades, has almost always resulted in lasting marriage.

In How to Choose a Husband, author Suzanne Venker tells the truth we’re all trying to ignore: Americans don’t know what it takes to get—and stay—married.

A one-time divorcée, Venker has been happily remarried for fifteen years and has two children, ages 10 and 13. And she has a message for the women of America: choosing the right husband is the single most important decision you’ll make in your lifetime. It will measure the flow of your days, be the determiner of your children’s well-being, even color your view of the world. You will take a good marriage or a bad marriage with you everywhere you go. It is the barometer for everything else you do. 

With that in mind, consider all the time and energy you’ve spent preparing for and/or pursuing a career. Now imagine if you spent even half that time and energy preparing to become a wife. You know, like women used to do.

Sound crazy? Silly? Something only our grandmothers did? Perhaps. But our grandmothers found husbands and kept them.

Have you?


“Without being preachy or prim, Suzanne Venker makes a compelling case against hooking up, shacking up, postponing motherhood, or making your career the center of your life. She even extols femininity, domesticity, and the joy of being—get ready—a considerate and solicitous wife to a good man. It is a delightful and subversive book that will spare women a lot of heartache.”
– Christina Hoff Sommers, bestselling author of Who Stole Feminism? How Women Have Betrayed Women “


“Any young woman would benefit from Suzanne Venker’s practical, hardheaded advice on love, marriage and sex.”
– James Taranto, The Wall Street Journal


How to Choose a Husband is not only fact-filled and fast-paced, with specific instructions on how to choose a man, it may likely have women doing a quick U-turn regarding their futures.”
— Doris Wild Helmering, noted author and marriage counselor
Where is Suzanne Now?
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“With the logical precision of a good trial lawyer, Venker takes on [the myths about staying home] and shows convincingly the fallacy behind each one." — a reader 

“Ms. Venker writes so articulately about the thoughts I've had as a mother but didn't know how to express. She helps us realize there are always repercussions for our choices. We can 'have it all,' but maybe not at the same time. Thank you, Suzanne, for saying what we all need to hear!”
— a reader 

“Thank you, Ms. Venker, for making me feel that what I am doing by staying home is the best thing for my children!”
— a reader  

“The author has decided to cut through the culture's politically correct rhetoric and simply tell it like it is: children want their moms around. Her basic premise is that motherhood has become all about the mother's needs and not about the children's needs.”
— a reader