America is single.
It’s divorced, under committed, and hopelessly out of touch with monogamy. Why? Because since the day they were born, the modern generation has been taught to postpone marriage indefinitely or ignore it altogether, as though marriage has no bearing on their happiness. As though it were a nice idea, or nice accompaniment, to an otherwise satisfying life.
But if flying solo is so great, why are people Match.com-ing on their lunch breaks and eHarmony-ing on the subway ride home? Why are women standing in the grocery aisles hoping to bring home a husband rather than a head of lettuce?
Sure, being single is fun—for a while. But most people don’t want to stay single forever. Men and women are irrevocably drawn to one another. Since the beginning of time, this attraction has been the driving force of our survival as a species—and until recent decades, has almost always resulted in lasting marriage.
In How to Choose a Husband, author Suzanne Venker tells the truth we’re all trying to ignore: Americans don’t know what it takes to get—and stay—married.
A one-time divorcée, Venker has been happily remarried for fifteen years and has two children, ages 10 and 13. And she has a message for the women of America: choosing the right husband is the single most important decision you’ll make in your lifetime. It will measure the flow of your days, be the determiner of your children’s well-being, even color your view of the world. You will take a good marriage or a bad marriage with you everywhere you go. It is the barometer for everything else you do.
With that in mind, consider all the time and energy you’ve spent preparing for and/or pursuing a career. Now imagine if you spent even half that time and energy preparing to become a wife. You know, like women used to do.
Sound crazy? Silly? Something only our grandmothers did? Perhaps. But our grandmothers found husbands and kept them.
“Any young woman would benefit from Suzanne Venker’s practical, hardheaded advice on love, marriage and sex.” – James Taranto, The Wall Street Journal