In Helen Smith’s excellent new book, Men on Strike, Smith identifies three groups of men in America today. There’s technically a fourth group—men who’ve found women that embrace marriage and motherhood and don’t have an ax to grind—but Smith focuses on the men who don’t fall into this camp, as they’re an ever-growing part of our population.
In the first category are the men who’ve gone on strike. These are the guys who are bowing out of marriage (and school, and the workforce) altogether, which is the focus of Smith’s book. The remaining two groups of men are what Smith calls the White Knights and the Uncle Tims. The White Knight wants to take care of women and “sees her as a damsel in distress who needs masculine protection to get by.” His status rises, Smith adds, “because the White Knight is seen by some men as chivalrous and by women as a protector.” In other words, he’s guided by his desire to be a woman’s rescuer and is thus blind to a woman’s foolish or negative ways.
An Uncle Tim is “a sellout to his own gender, who is more than likely either a politician type—usually liberal—or just a guy trying to get laid who thinks his PC behavior will get him laid more often.” He’s often a young guy who’s been brainwashed into believing he must go along with the ‘female as superior’ tune since he’s been taught that men should be punished for past discrimination against women.
I wish I had a dollar for every Uncle Tim I know! These are men who don’t like to stir the pot or are too busy to pay attention to what’s happening in our culture. They want to get laid more than anything else, so they’re fine with women being so sexually available. And if these same men do get tired of being single and decide they want kids, they’re fine with marrying hard-core career women. Both scenarios mean more sex and more money for men.
But here’s the sad part. All too often these White Knights and Uncle Tims get involved with women who’ve focused exclusively on their careers and put no thought into marriage and motherhood until their clocks began to tick. These women tend to marry whatever guy they happen to be with at the time because they want a baby.
And a White Knight or an Uncle Tim will be right there waiting.
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